Showered in Love

As promised, here are some photos and recaps from my baby showers the past 2 weekends. I am not the kind of person who thinks I need multiple baby showers, but my husband’s family lives 5 hours away and none of them would travel for a shower in Minneapolis, and my family is from all over the country and Dubuque, Iowa (where my husband is from) is not an easy place to fly in to, so we had to divide the shower into his side/my side.

The first shower was thrown by my sisters-in-law in Dubuque. It was very sweet of them to throw this for me as they both have kids and I know can be very busy. It was lovely to catch up with some of Will’s family including his cousin and her 3 week old baby! I was so desperate to hold an infant, I felt like a drug addict needing a hit. We had the most amazing cookies at that shower. I probably ate 3-4 that day and 1-2 for the next few days after that…Good thing I already passed my glucose screen… Here are some pics from that shower.

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With my sisters-in law and niece

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Last weekend was the shower in Minneapolis hosted by my sister. I was so glad my aunts from Dallas and New Jersey flew in as well as my mom from Tennessee and my sister from Chicago. I love when my extended family all gets together. We have lot of fun making fun of my mom and her sister for all their little familial quirks. We had the BEST cake ever. It tastes amazing as well as was so pretty. It was made with a design from some embroidery my grandma had done. We were totally spoiled. Mom stuck around this week to help me get stuff done around the house.

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With my aunts

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With my mom and sister

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Sorry that first post was prematurely posted with my belly as I tried to reach for a bite of lasagna. Darn MacBooks and your sensitive mousepad at the very front of the computer. I’d be lying if I said that was the first time my belly clicked the mouse on the computer.

OH! And I forgot that some co-workers threw me a surprise shower at work on Monday, which was my last day at that hospital. I’ll be at a different hospital covering someone’s vacation until I go on my own baby vacation. Someone made a delicious pistachio cake and they all chipped in to get me a gift card, which was totally thoughtful and unnecessary. I had a lot of sugar lately. Its finally all gone (just finished the last piece) and now it’s only dark chocolate for a while to give my pancreas a break 🙂

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Much love to all of you

xTally

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How things are going….

I thought I would write a little update since I am so delinquent, even though I don’t have much to say! Things have been going really well here. I’m almost 33 weeks and other than the expected discomfort from time to time, I’m feeling great. We have definitely been keeping busy. We just had a baby shower with Will’s family in Iowa and this week we have our hospital tour on Wednesday and my mom and aunts are coming to town Thursday and Friday for a baby shower here in Minneapolis.

I guess the biggest update we have is that we finally have our basement finished and clean (after an asbestos scare and not knowing how to properly clean concrete dust), and have started to move stuff from the baby’s room (has been storage) to the basement, so soon we can start putting stuff in the baby’s room. That will start to make this whole thing seem real.

The little lady is very mobile and is definitely making her presence known when I am trying to sleep. I got some books from our Iowa shower and so I started to read to her at night. This book last night made me cry. I highly recommend it. Doing little things like reading and singing to her make me start to feel like a mommy instead of just a pregnant women.

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I’ll do a post next week about our showers and have some updated pics! Even though I’ve been MIA I’ve been reading your updates and have been praying for you all!

Blessings,

Tally

Why I am glad buffer my pregnancy talk with infertility talk

Ok. It’s been a while, I know. I reduced my hours to 3 days a week so now am hoping to get back to writing more. Let’s skip the guilty excuses and just move on. 🙂

I mentioned a while ago that I felt the need to clarify to everyone I told about being pregnant, that it was hard for us and that we ended up doing some fertility treatments to get there. I thought maybe I was being a bit over zealous and that people didn’t really need to know that, but now I am glad I did. Now that everyone knows (or can tell) I’ve got a baby on board, I still will mention it when people start trying to get me to complain about being pregnant (“how uncomfortable are you?”, “are you starting to have sleepless night?”).

A few weeks ago I hear a knock on my door at work and my colleague came in and asked if I had a few minutes, I said yes, and then she came in, closed the door, and started crying.  She told me about how scared she is to start doing fertility treatments and taking drugs with scary side effects. She is 36, and recently married, and had previously told me they were going to start trying and because of her age, had asked me a few basic questions about the fertility clinic I went to and what we did, etc as she was worried.

This was last summer and I didn’t really want to ask any follow up questions other than generic “how are things?” because I knew how it felt when after several months, relatives and friends would ask for “any updates” and I had nothing to give. It made me feel cruddy, like they were thinking “its been 4 months since we last talked about fertility stuff—shouldn’t you have an update by now??” If I had an update I wanted to share, I would have. And if she had good news, wanted her to be able to share it on her time, and not feel pressure.

So when she came to my office, and opened up, it made me so glad that I had put myself out there. Does she have anyone else she can talk to about this? What if I was the only person in her life who opened up about fertility? What if I hadn’t? She would be stressing by herself, feeling like she was the only person who experienced all the crazy feelings/emotions that we all know so well: jealousy, anger, fear, resentment, husband thinking you’re being irrational… to name a few

I told her the shot isn’t that bad, the HSG is no big, that I never even read the side effects page of all the medications (ignorance is bliss…) and a gave her big hug. That was it. She left and then the rest of the day, we acted like it never happened, I continue to not ask her for details and hope that someday soon I hear about an upcoming maternity leave for her.

So if any of you are wondering if you should tell people about your struggles (past or present), know that even if one person hears it who needed to hear it, it was worth it.

x Tally